ADI’ve mentioned that my boys don’t sleep in previous posts, but it’s so bad at the moment I feel like the subject deserves a dedicated blog post.
Physically my boys are quite different. I rarely have people tell me they look like each other, because they really don’t. They also have different personalities, builds, interests. They really are polar opposites.
Except at bedtime. At bedtime they’re like 2 peas in a pod.
They just don’t get tired.
No matter how much they do in the day, bedtime is the same every night. They just can’t seem to switch off and relax. And for a 5 and 2 year old, after hours at school/nursery, energy burning in soft play, swimming lessons, ninja lessons, sprinting up and down the house, you’d think, you’d really think, they’d crash and burn by 8pm.
But oh no. Not in our house.
We’ve tried bath, book and bed. Nope.
We’ve tried putting them to bed separately. Nope.
What about putting them bed at the same time? Nope.
Having downtime before bed; time to relax, milk, a relaxing movie like the Gruffalo or Stick Man (which usually sends Bear to sleep), snuggles on the sofa, then bed. Does that work? Nope.
We are absolutely open to suggestions if you have any!
As you can imagine, these difficult nights mean we don’t get chance to wind down and relax in the evening. I don’t have much time to work, and quite frankly we’re bloody knackered.
There are a few changes I’ve made to my evenings to try and get as much out of the sleep I get, and make it quality sleep.
First of all we got a new mattress. I honestly can’t stress enough how much better I sleep on it compared to our previous one. I fall asleep easier, relax easier and sleep deeper. So the little time I do actually sleep is at least decent. I highly recommend finding your perfect mattress to improve your sleep when it’s broken like mine.
Next I’ve reduced how much I work on my laptop in the evenings. It’s not always possible, but I try not to sit for hours in the evening looking at the screens. Instead I leave packing orders for the evening. Planning the next day/week in my planner. A bit of social media updating.
There’s something else I want to change about my evenings, and that’s how much time I spend with the boys. I’m always in such a hurry to get them to bed and rushing around so I can get some work done (understandably), but I feel I’m missing time I could spend snuggling and reading them bedtime stories.
I feel like if I was to change my view on bedtime, and treat it as a time to sit and bond with my boys I may gain some control.
I just need to get them to sit down and read with me now…
It’s really not an easy process for us at the moment. Dealing with someone who works full time and comes home and would like an evening to relax, a work at home mum spending every hour thinking of how much she has to do all the time whilst staring at her chaotic house, and 2 boys who refuse to go to bed, and run around the house like nutters until 9pm. Well, it really takes it’s toll on you.
We desperately want to gain a little control over our bedtime routine and give us some child free time to relax. At the moment we’re not even close. But fingers crossed, one day, those precious little boys will give us our evenings back!